Mental Awareness: Self-care and Coaching

Mental health is always important no matter what gender you are, Male or Female. People think men do not go through it, people have debates if they do which I find it to be silly and unnecessary. Women find it odd that men do. They can become "emotional" and are "sensitive" is not 'attractive' or however they so see it. Which is entirely fine for men to go through emotional states behind closed doors. What matters most is that we are human, not because we are said gender, not because we are said ethnicity. It is fine to have a sudden sign of femineity if you are a male, it is fine to have a more masculine sign when you are upset if you are a female. What matters most is that you are who you are. 

Myself, I am a female, and I go through rollercoasters of emotions. Based on childhood trauma, I go through depression and anxiety. For now, I want to focus on those topics as they share similar traits when dealing with low Self-esteem. There are ways you can overcome negative clouds in your head that can take time to exercise with yourself. Let us say you are spending time together with your regular online friend group, and one friend has not been very mindful of the way they act around you. They are being rude when it comes to joking around and disrespecting your boundaries. This hurts you a lot, which changes your mood entirely. You might feel angry, or just sad because it really hurts your feelings which could overcast your thoughts. You want to say something, but you are afraid it might hurt them as well, or you are not sure what they might say will be a good or bad response. So instead, you stay quiet, and bottle up those emotions. 
 

This is not a promising idea when you should stand up for yourself in tough situations. Instead, you could build your own courage with simple questions to yourself: "Did this affect me in any way? If it does, I should say something.", "Has something similar like this happened before? I should do something about it.". With that level of confidence, you should talk with that person off to the side about what they have said has upset you. Do not feel bad about confronting someone; it is always okay if it affects you. Mind you that you should not express aggressive behavior at someone with harsh language, as it would not help the problem, but it would not help you either. 

That is where coaching comes in. When you deal with emotions, it is hard to handle them. Such as depression, you are bound to be sad, with negative thoughts. Which could lead to self-harming or harming others (same with dealing with anger problems). Let us say you want to cry because something upsets you, but you are not sure it is okay, or that is something you should do as the right response. This is about you. I would say it would be okay to cry to relieve stress in certain situations. But when it comes to small issues, it is not needed. Not encouraging the "bottled up your emotions", but to keep your mind at ease. Take a couple of breaths, and count to ten to ease your nerves, tell yourself that it is okay. Step back and recalibrate. Tell yourself that, "However, or whatever you're feeling right now, is okay to react that way." or however you may word your statements. It is good to take a step back and choose your words carefully. Keeping your boundaries is what is important. Coaching yourself is a unique way of therapy is what I like to see it as. It is good for self confidence and self-esteem.